Here is the description of Christ I mentioned here. This is the balance of strength and compassion we need:
A man of steel, Jesus confronted the religious evil of his day. He called the corrupt religious leaders vipers, hypocrites, white-washed tombs full of dead bones. Like steel, he cleared the money-changers out of the Temple. Like steel, he confronted Peter, told him he could be a rock, that he should be consistent, that he should stop wavering.
Yet it was a man of velvet who wept over the death of his friend Lazarus. It was the velvet in the man that gave him compassion for the woman caught in adultery. It was the velvet in him that led him to reach out to the little children who crowded around him. It was the velvet in him that compelled him, just hours before the Cross, to kneel before his disciples and wash their feet.
Ron Lee Davis
Mentoring: The Strategy of the Master