This is love, that we walk after his commandments.
2 John 6a
The beauty of this definition is that I am not required to pretend to have or conjure up feelings of love for someone. All I have to do is act in love. The feelings of love are the consequence that comes from obedience to God’s command.
Many people have the mistaken idea that Christian love is a feeling, a special kind of ‘religious emotion’ that makes us reach out and accept others. Certainly, emotion is involved, but basically Christian love is an act of the will. It simply means treating others the same way God treats you. In fact, it is possible to love people we really do not ‘like.’ We may not be able to will our affections at all times, but we can will our attitude and actions.
The rule for all of us is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more. If you do him a good turn, you will find yourself disliking him less.
C. S. Lewis
Motion results in emotion. The ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as by often repeated deeds.