“But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:”
It is a common and sad misconception that a heart of love cannot also be a heart for truth. Or, that believers cannot be graciously orthodox.
The church is not allowed the option to choose between the two. We fear the error of Ephesus who maintained doctrinal purity but left their first love and its accompanying works, but we are also to avoid the opposite extreme of Thyatira who were commended for the love-motivated labors but passively tolerated doctrinal error.
We are to speak the truth IN love. We are followers of the Christ by whom came grace AND truth. As we learn the difficult balance of the two we are “growing up into Him in all things.”
If we emphasize one at the expense of the other we will fail in our task of manifesting Christ’s glory to this world. The glory of a Savior who was the perfect expression of both Truth and Love.